My family is now in pieces. Yes it's a divorce. My dad wants out cos my mom has been quarrelling with him for the past few nights so much so that he can't get any sleep. He’s packed up and gone elsewhere to live for now, and I’ve to take care of my mom, who's currently going on a hunger strike.
Sounds like my dad's the bad guy here huh? Well can’t put the blame totally on him either. i was expecting this breakup for quite some time. Just didn't expect it to happen in such a vulnerable time. I’m in mandatory jail term and I’ve got almost peanuts as income.
ok i shall explain each side's views on this breakup, and I’ll let the floor decide. Those in red italic fonts are my personal input.
my dad says that my mom's never there for the family as she's sold her life to the company. (there's truth in it, she wakes up at 5.30am every morning, leaves home for work at 6.30am, then only reaches home at 12am or 1am the next morning. ok then he also says that there is no family here. just a roof over his head.) He has been trying to tell her for the past 10 years to quit her job and that he can provide for the family but she never listens. I’m also following my mom's footsteps, not going to my granny's place on Saturday evenings even though she's the only granny I have left, or only grandparent I have left on either side for that matter. (also happens to be true, i'm always out with my friends, prob cos i feel no connection with, ok not really none at all, just not much connection with my granny.) And now that I stay in camp from Monday to Thursday, my dad goes home to blank four walls, not seeing my mom till the 1st few hours of each weekend. (weekend bride, no diff from a batam bride eh? but let's not reduce my mom to that) then recently, my mom keeps complaining about his business in Vietnam so much so that he can't sleep at night anymore. This plus 2 other selfish (selfish to my dad, though i find them rather selfish as well.) decisions that pissed my dad off the past year or so made him finally pull out.
Ok on to my mom. This is what i can gather from the rubbish she's been speaking since she learnt of the breakup. She’s been working so hard for the past 20++ coming 30 years in this company to get to where she is. (still she doesn't earn much, really, not much diff from a fresh grad out of poly) and she stays on only cos my dad's job doesn't have job security. (like which job has anyway?) She doesn't like this job and wishes to quit after i finish my uni. Even if my dad doesn't like her job why can't he just say out? (See i told u she's talking rubbish) he shouldn’t just leave home without a word and let someone tell her about the divorce. It’s not being fair to her. And now that he’s got a woman in Vietnam while still in the marriage, it’s not fair too; she’s been faithful all this while. Things in Vietnam should be communicated with her, not only with me.
Ok now on to my own views. It might be rather biased but fuck who isn’t biased? I feel that dad could have told mom that he has no feelings anymore now that she treats home like a hotel to come home and sleep for the night. She doesn’t do any shopping for groceries, doesn’t go out with us for meals unless there’s a special occasion, which is rather rare. To go out with her, one needs to book an appointment, pretty much similar to most women, so ok I can accept, oh wait, most women put family 1st when it comes to appointments! Damn! Are we not family enough to her?? Well didn’t dad try to tell her not to cont working in that fucked up ST Aerospace anymore?? It’s a fucking government company with no fucking overtime pay. Why the fuck does she have to stay so late every night?? Her pay isn’t high anyway! I mean if she’s gonna work like that for a few days a year during the close of the financial year, quarterly reports or something like that, it’s ok. But why work like a slave every day of the year? Does not make sense at all. There is still a lot that I have to say, I’m just lazy to type it down. It’s making me sick just thinking about it.
